As a submissive wife, who has promised to submit to my
husband, I find that there are days when I don’t really
feel like submitting. Maybe I woke up in a bad mood
or I am having a stressful day. Maybe I got some really
upsetting news that I am having trouble dealing with.
It could be any reason really, but at that moment,
my submissive side is just no where to be seen.

It’s during those times when it is imperative that
absolutely do continue to submit. If I give in to
my momentary desire to do as I please instead
of how my husband prefers, this lends itself to
further distancing from my goal of submission.
It’s like you step away from that soft, loving, side
and you become hard in that moment.

When the desire to submit comes from the heart,
it is so much easier to maintain submission. But,
it isn’t realistic to think that every day of our lives
and every moment of our day, we will always feel
like submitting.

So what happens if we give in to that feeling and
choose not to submit? For  me, I may feel justified
in the moment but that feeling will be short lived.
I always regret when I don’t choose submission.
I see the disappointment on my husband’s face
and I know I have let him down. I know I have
made the wrong choice.  This hurts my heart to
know I have displeased him and it hurts the trust
my husband has given me by my promise to
submit to him.

Those times when I push through that feeling of
not wanting to submit, give me strength to continue
on. The inner submissive feelings return more
quickly and I have satisfaction knowing I did not
give up or give in to that desire to stray from my path.
I find joy knowing I have remained submissive.
It’s like I am a runner, and I have overcome this
incredible obstacle to stay the course. My husband
appreciates the effort and I know I have pleased
him. It’s a good feeling.

It’s also helpful to remind yourself why you have
chosen to submit. For me, it was a desire to be
the type of wife my husband longed for. I wasn’t
naturally a submissive person. I was used to being
independent, in charge, a leader and not a follower.
But I wanted this man as my husband and he wanted
a submissive wife. I agreed to do whatever I needed
to become that wife.

I found that when I truly submitted, our marriage
was better and more fulfilling.

 

Submitted by: Mara